She cancelled our last two dates. Is this a sign of disinterest?
Ah, the classic “she loves me, she loves me not” spiral. We’ve all been there. But you don’t have to guess — and you don’t need to be a psychic. Let’s cut the noise and focus on the only thing that matters: her actions.
Here’s how to tell the difference between someone genuinely interested but swamped, and someone giving you the slow fade.
Let’s do the vibe check (it’s not rocket science)
Was she specific or vague?
🟢 “Ugh, my project deadline just got moved up. I’m buried till Wednesday, So sorry!” (this has details - we believe her.)
🛑 “Can’t make it. Something came up.” (this is the text equivalent of a shrug.)
Was she apologetic or pure transactional?
🟢 “I’m so sorry! I was really looking forward to it 😔”
🛑 “gotta cancel. sry” (this feels like canceling a hobby class, not a date)
Did she take the initiative to reschedule?
🟢 She says “I’m free Thursday though, can we try then?” See that? She’s keeping the ball in play.
🛑She cancels and vanishes. When you follow up, you get a vague “Idk, my schedule’s a mess rn.”
Are your messages getting ignored?
🟢 The texting energy is still there. She replies, sends memes, the usual.
🛑The conversation has flatlined, and you’re the one performing CPR.
The “Ball-in-her-court” Plan
You’ve done your part — now put the ball in her court. Drop one final text:
“Hey no worries! Life gets crazy. Just let me know when you’re free next 👌
Why this works: It’s simple, clear, zero drama and makes the next move 100% hers.
Go Radio Silent: This is the most important part. No “good morning” texts, no lurking on her stories. Go live your life - hang out with your friends, focus on your hobbies. You need to actually forget about it.
If she’s interested: She will reach out. Maybe not today, but she will. Interested people find a way. Always.
If she’s not: You’ll get silence. And that’s your answer—a clean, clear no. And that’s a win. It’s closure.
Either way, you get what you need: a date with someone eager, or your freedom back to find one. Now, go do something more interesting than waiting for a text.:)
